Tuesday, May 24, 2011

The Sensual Side of Photography

WARNING: If you are under the age of 18 I do not advise you to read this blog. This blog is for mature adults only. Thank you... (hahahahahaha.... jk)

Nowadays we have access to a camera/video camera that is within our reach. Whether it be on our cell phone or we keep a camera in our bag either way we have it on hand and we are ready to snap away at any embarrassing, funny, cute or sad moment. Now have you ever sat back and asked yourself how important photo images are to you or others? I personally love to view lovey dovey pictures of my husband and I from our dating days to now. Taking that trip down memory lane still gives me butterflies and laughs. Now with that being said today's subject is going to be about the sensual side of photography but not for just anyone but for your spouse actually more for your husband.

I messaged some random female friends on Facebook asking them about this certain subject. In fact, here is the exact message I sent out to them...

  • Ok I need help... I was asked to write a blog about photography but more of the sensual side of photography. Pictures that women take for their new husbands, anniversary or husbands birthdays. The couple that does these photo shoots are LDS and they get a ton of praise from the women that do these photos and men that get these photos. These photos are for the husbands eyes only. These women are in lingerie or a bra and undies. Please tell me your views about this entire thing. Some people think that doings these photos is degrading to women. But these women come to them to take these photos. Note that these pictures are not raunchy. I don't really know how to explain it unless you see for yourself. WHAT IS YOUR OPINION?

    Jones Red Label (the sexy side of Jones Photo Art)
    www.jredlabel.com
    Sexy, Modern Boudoir Photography

Immediately after I sent out this message I got a ton of responses. All of their answers/opinions were positive whether they would do it or not. Some girls said they've done it already or you know I'd do it but most of their responses could be summed up in one phrase, "TO EACH HIS OWN". If you don't understand here is an example: I'd never pick that color, but to each his own. So what is your opinion on this matter?

My point of view is WHO AM I TO JUDGE? The honest reason why I wouldn't do it is because I don't want anyone else seeing me dressed that way other than my husband but that is MY opinion and nobody else. But if you were to ask me if I look down on another because they choose to do these kind of photos for their husband???? Ummm... Not so much. In fact, more power to them! If that's their choice to be able to rekindle the fire or do a simple action of JUST BECAUSE then HEY, GO ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF ;) These photos are being taken for their husbands eyes only and not for the public eye to see so I ask why are we forming a negative judgement on what we don't see? The wisest answer I got was given by my mother--> What happens behind closed doors between a married couple is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS! I have the same opinion about the photographers taking these photos... TO EACH HIS OWN!

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Gossip... It's Not Fun When It's About You

"Whispering Game"
About half-a-dozen or more kids sit in a circle and the first child whispers something into the ear of the second and so forth. By the time the whisper gets to the last child something completely hilarious comes out that has nothing to do with what was first whispered. The #1 rule to this game is you can only whisper it once and NO REPEATING IS ALLOWED. 

Today's subject is... (DRUM ROLL PLEASE)... Gossip! Now as a child we would play an innocent game full of fun and laughter but as adults the he-say-she-say stuff isn't just a game of fun anymore. It's a game that theoretically throws knives from your mouth to inflict pain to another emotionally and eventually you ruin their reputation. I brought up the "Whispering Game" because that is exactly how rumors happen and get exaggerated. One person starts an assumption and states it as a fact and the second person repeats what is said but puts their little flair into it and eventually makes it into their own story and so on and so on. Let's call that domino effect THE VICIOUS CYCLE OF GOSSIP. Now this is definitely a sensitive subject because us as humans like to take offense to something we may know is wrong but we just don't want to admit to it. Some make excuses or justifications such as, "It's not gossip when it's the truth" or "Well hey... The truth hurts! (as he/she shrugs their shoulders)" All of this talk of he-say-she-say mumbo jumbo is justified by I'M JUST TELLIN THE TRUTH but honestly have you ever stepped back from the situation to think if it was true or not rather than going off of what others say?

My point of view is we don't understand exactly how deep our words cut when we speak ill of another person. Gossip is nothing less than a scandal meaning you are spreading rumors or simply talking about someone that is damaging to ones reputation; it is usually more or less awful but still poisonous. Drama is always unnecessary and never ceases to happen but completely cutting out gossip in your life will definitely reduce any future drama that may come your way and life will seem just a little bit easier. The classic advice TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED can be used in the scenario with slightly different changes.
"TALK ABOUT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TALKED ABOUT..."